Just Repent and It’s All Good

Salam,

I’ve been coming across certain Muslim brothers who feel like they have done so much haram (forbidden acts) in their life that they can never change and its too late. Wake Up!! Thats the worst way to think, shatan (the devil) is just trying to play you. Remember your still alive, as long as the rooh (soul) has not reached the throat then make moves and repent.

People get caught up with their emotions and put themselves down. We have to remember Allah (God Almighty) can save us at anytime from the hellfire, we have to do everything in our power to make a niyyah and be sincere to changing and rectifying our inner selves.

Just press this onto your heart….”You do your best and Allah will do the rest” as Mufti Abdul Rehman Ibn Yusuf told me.

Today a friend of mine asked me if a Muslim brother or sister has fornicated before marriage then do they have to marry a non virgin? Good question, i started doing my research and eventually ended up on sunnipath.com to hear my man Sheikh Faraz Rabbani’s answer.

As i was looking i found that a sister had already asked this question, basically she asked does a virgin have to marry a virgin and fornicator to a fornicator. She also said ” isn’t it true that once you have sincerely repented from the sin from the bottom of your heart, do not go back to committing it that it is as if you had never committed the sin and are as good as a pious person if not above them?

The shiekh responded- Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

I pray that this finds you well, and in the best of health and spirits. May Allah grant you all good and success in this life and the next.

The concerns you mention are true, because as the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “The one who repents from sin is like the one who never sinned.” Legally–as answers in the SunniPath QA (http://qa.sunnipath.com) explain–someone not known by people as a non-virgin is considered a virgin, and all the rulings apply to them.

And Allah alone gives success.

So don’t get it twisted. We must make an effort to change and turn to repentance anytime we do something haram, this is just one example.

Shiekh Hamza Yusuf Hanson Al- Maliki mentioned that as long as we are alive we have the ability to make our own life but even more deeply edit our movie. What he meant by this was that just like in Hollywood they make movies and they are able to edit and cut out whatever is not needed, similarly we should think about our life movie that will be shown to us on the day of judgment and while we are alive we are writing our movie script and the best way to edit it – is to repent!

We make dua Allah guides us all and forgives us for our shortcomings in this life and accept our repentance. Ameen!

 

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18 Responses to Just Repent and It’s All Good

  1. me January 18, 2008 at 12:35 am #

    thankyou for that. it really helped me.

    wasalam

  2. Baba January 18, 2008 at 7:40 am #

    Don't forget a few important points about this (often, new Muslims are told all sins are forgiven, but they aren't told that they still need to repay old crimes):

    http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&I

  3. hooria January 18, 2008 at 7:48 pm #

    this article really helped me understand alot =]….

    but i dont understand the actual definition of repent.

    if you are forgiven for the sins you have done. Then how do you repay them? if your already forgiven?!

    ahh i dont know. i dont think i stated the question right.

    if any one understands me then can they please reply back to this badly written question =/

  4. Aanika January 19, 2008 at 3:26 am #

    Asalamulaikum bro,

    mashAllah this is a brilliant post. What a reminder!

    Many atime muslims have come across this situation where they lose hope. They may practice, but all of a sudden something knocks them off the right path, the hardest part is picking up the pieces and turning back to allah. No matter how many times this happens you have to turn back to allah. His mercy outweighs his wrath,

    People should remember its good to feel guilty as it shows you have eman, But you can't just sit their wollowing in your own self pity, you have to turn to allah and repent like you have never repented before ! Try and be the best muslim you can, but remember this won't happen over night, its a gradual process particularly if you struggle with problems like anger. InshAllah just make a sincere intention and remember allah is with you, always.

    sorry to write an essay bro but I really benefitted from this post and it sparked alot of thought !

  5. Baba January 19, 2008 at 8:00 pm #

    hooria: repaying sins is different from repenting. What I was referring to was something definite like ripping off someone for $100 or shoplifting a case of beer, or anything else like that done in days before one took shahadah. One has to repay the owner–repenting to Allah is not going to cut it. Now, if one has done something that wasn't in line with violating the rights of others such as looking at the haram or otherwise sinning against one's self, then insha'allah repentance is accepted and one moves on. It's only things involving others' property rights that will testify against you if you don't make an attempt to pay them back or return their property. If they're dead or you can't locate them (or the company you stole from is out of business) then one needs to pay that amount to a non-zakat charity (ie. general welfare charity) in order to cleanse one's own wealth from the haram.

  6. Kashan Ahmed January 20, 2008 at 9:42 pm #

    This is really nice and very important article. It is one of the features of this beautiful religion that makes it very apealing to non-believers.

    Every person, no matter how religious he/she is, or whaterver the age or background is does something in life which is against the religion and make him guilty. It is this guilt which makes that person to make dua and ask for forgiveness from the Creator. As it has been said that no is or was perfect except for Holy Prophet Muhammad(Peace be upon him).

    So we should always make dua and be happy.

    And as far as repenting is concern the best defination for it is as the dictionary say:

    1)To feel remorse, contrition, or self-reproach for what one has done or failed to do; be contrite.

    2)To feel such regret for past conduct as to change one's mind regarding it: repented of intemperate behavior.

    3)To make a change for the better as a result of remorse or contrition for one's sins.

    So as far is repaying is concern, we don't have to repay for our sins but we have to repent for it.

  7. Saad January 21, 2008 at 6:52 am #

    Jazakullah my brothers and sisters for the comments and help, Also i forget to mention that our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) used to ask for Allah swt forgiveness over 100 times a day, so WHO are we to run away from the mercy of Allah.

    Allah swt wants the best for us and we should understand this whether we are Muslim or non – Muslim as brother kashan ahmed mentioned….. Jazakullah and remember its never too late.

  8. hooria January 21, 2008 at 7:21 am #

    thanx =]

  9. Vick January 21, 2008 at 9:03 am #

    Salaam..

    Mashallah..this info sounds real familiar Saad loll..enjoyed reading the article but i think that u shouldve put down the 4 steps of repentance that we discussed..i think it wouldve helped many people out..

  10. Saad January 21, 2008 at 9:48 am #

    Yea, i should have definitely put the 4 steps for repentance, my bad, my mind wonders while i am writing some times and shatan be whispering in my ears.

    I should lay out some things before i start writing instead of being so random =). Brother kashan put the steps in his comment..

    Here is an article from sunnipath.com on the steps to sincere repentance. Click below.

    http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=84

    jazakullah everyone for the feedback. holla atcha brother

  11. Baba January 22, 2008 at 7:25 am #

    Sorry, but if you steal something you have to pay it back. That is very basic. You're deluding yourself if you think just repenting is going to clear you. What about that money you stole?

  12. hooria January 22, 2008 at 11:33 am #

    i agreee with baba…

  13. Doa January 23, 2008 at 10:15 pm #

    Great article masha Allah, I love the movie-edit analogy.

    Let me also add:

    Allah’s Apostle (saw) said, “Whoever says, ‘Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi,’ one hundred times a day, will be forgiven all his sins even if they were as much as the foam of the sea. (Bukhari)

    Commentary: Here sins mean minor sins and those which do not relate to the rights of people

    (This is a topic which will always have things to add to, because SubhanAllah, Allah swt's mercy is so vast, there is so much to say about it.)

    And question: (in terms of repayment) what should one do if one doesn't remember who he/she may have wronged pre-shahada? (example: he was a thief who robbed many people, and he paid back 10-12 of them post shahada, but knows there were more, but doesnt know how many more or who they are; or he/she backbited a lot of people, etc.) JazakAllah khairan

  14. Anonymous January 24, 2008 at 10:26 pm #

    As far as stealing, hurting or harrassing someone. These acts not only involve Allah but the person you have hurt or caused trouble.

    I don't know any Hadith but I remember that my Grandma used to say that " If you hurt someone than you should first ask for forgiveness from that person directly and then ask Allah to forgive you". This makes quite a logic to me because when you are stealing or hurting someone, you are not going against the Allah alone you are also causing the trouble to that person.

    So one should ask for forgiveness from the very person whom he/she have caused any trouble and then ask Allah for forgiveness.

    And Ins'Allah Allah will forgive that person.

  15. Kashan January 24, 2008 at 10:26 pm #

    As far as stealing, hurting or harrassing someone. These acts not only involve Allah but the person you have hurt or caused trouble.

    I don’t know any Hadith but I remember that my Grandma used to say that ” If you hurt someone than you should first ask for forgiveness from that person directly and then ask Allah to forgive you”. This makes quite a logic to me because when you are stealing or hurting someone, you are not going against the Allah alone you are also causing the trouble to that person.

    So one should ask for forgiveness from the very person whom he/she have caused any trouble and then ask Allah for forgiveness.

    And Ins’Allah Allah will forgive that person.

  16. mashal October 29, 2009 at 8:14 pm #

    this helped aalllooott !!! 😀

    thanksss super muuchh

    what if youve dated once , but like your TERRIBLLY SORRY FOR it . and your a much better muslim now ? and like you repent and you love allah like soo deeply . is it still going to be held against you ? and the dating last year wasnt even my fault , well technically it was peer pressure..:(

    because i think that the guilt you have , makes your faith stronger , and when you repent it brings you closer to Allah [SWT]

    is that right ?

  17. Bob Jackson June 17, 2010 at 11:37 pm #

    salam

    I have also fornicated in the past (i am a girl) and i am very sorry for my sins. And like any other good muslimah, i wish to marry a pious muslim. and i do have someone right now that my parents would want me to marry and i like him too. But i cant tell yu how scared i am when he'll find out i am not a virgin, as they say that a woman's private part can tell wether She is a virgin or not.

    I am really scared because as Allah is Forgiving and Oft-merciful, His slaves, not so much.

    Please help me and please make dua for me that may Allah hide my sins. Ameen.

    Salam.

  18. laili February 7, 2012 at 1:02 am #

    Salam 'Bob Jackson', well technically nobody can tell you are not a virgin because science proves that most girls don't have a hymen and don't bleed. Also, around 80% of girls hymens brake before they get married or take part in that activity, So just pray to Allah with a sincere heart and with pure repentance and inshallah Allah is the all forgiving. And only He knows how much regret and sadness you feel. And sister, i know you feel scared if anybody may find out, but you should be much more scared of Allah Ta'ala. No human has the right to judge anybody else because everybody makes some mistake in their life, Just cover your sins and don't let anybody know. I know this is a late reply but i hope this well help you understand. Forget the past like it was a very bad dream and never stop repenting. Try and make your future beautiful and pious. Good luck sis. x x x

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