Diamonds Aren’t Forever, Heaven is!
Salaam,
They say a “diamond is a girls best friend”. Some people glorify them; others horrify them like Lupe Fiasco said. One thing I realized is that if you want to get married my brothers you’re most probably going to have to buy your wifey a blinged out rock, just make sure its not a blood diamond. So start saving upfrom now..Ha!
I’m not going to lie, we all love holding extravagant captivating glamorous diamonds that are beautiful to gaze upon but does it really make us happy? I don’t think so. True happiness comes in the hereafter and it certainly doesn’t come in material gains. It comes in the remembrance of Allah. Although there is nothing wrong with ballin( for those who don’t what ballin means, in New York when you someone is ballin you are referring to their riches), hey ain’t nothing wrong with ballin, the more money you got, the more money you can give for zakat :).
But what I’m basically trying to say is when you marry your wife, i don’t think she will really care about the diamonds at the end of the day; rather she will perish it because you gave it to her as a gift to protect that halal marriage. Don’t forget to do the nikkah. Money doesn’t buy happiness, any rich person will tell you that. At the end of the day its the blessings of Allah (God Almighty) that makes you happy. The fact that you are Muslim, you got a family,you got health, you got the four seasons, you have the sun, and freewill, well it never stops because Allah says in the Holy Quran we could never count his blessings. They go on and on and on and on…….
One thing I noticed is that a lot of people are quick to judge people by their weddings. On one extreme, you have people who say “oh that brother threw a dunya wedding”. Then you have others who criticize others because their wedding wasn’t as extravagant. We have to be fair; we shouldn’t make fun of people who throw simple weddings, because a simple wedding is a wedding recommended by our beloved Prophet Muhammad, in one hadith our beloved Prophet said
“The marriage which is most greatly blessed is the one which is the lightest in burden [expense]. However, if people are well catered for, without extravagance and show, there is no problem with that either.” (Reported by Bayhaqi)
So make it easy on yourselves, here is another hadith which describes one of the weddings of our beloved Prophet. Anas (RA) describes one of the walimahs hosted by the Prophet (SAW):
“The Prophet stayed for three days at a place between Khaibar and Medina, and there he consummated his marriage with Safiyya bint Huyay (RA). I invited the Muslims to a banquet which included neither meat nor bread. The Prophet (SAW) ordered for the leather dining sheets to be spread, and then dates, dried yogurt and butter were provided over it, and that was the Walima (banquet) of the Prophet (SAW).” (Reported by Bukhari)
So simplicity guaranteed, buy your wife a sterling silver ring, haha, na it’s all good. Just do whatever you feel is most comfortable for yourself as a Muslim. You got the recommendations in the Sunnah above–So do you. I didn’t think i would be writing this much, i was just wondering today randomly about weddings diamond rings and how much it really matters to the Muslim wifey.
Alright I’m out…wasalaam. Oh yea i wanted to mention a hadith which says poor people will enter heaven 40 years before the rich people. Wondering why? less accountability. Remember you will be judged on everything you had in this life.
“But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters.” (Quran, 6:141)