Grow the beard, wear the hijab, be modest!

muslim spidey hijabi

You know when i went through the phase of looking cool, and being another muslim teen growing up in this shatan society, i had a habit of spending money like i printed it, astukfurillah, so you know i got haircuts every week, i used the newest gel out, la looks, loreal all that to have a pond in my head to look fresh, then on top of that i would shave everyday, interesting enough to say, nowadays i look at myself and i say Astukfurillah how was i like that at one point in my life, yup its true and i wanted to say, we have to revive the sunnah and stop being followers, but following the sunnah dosent mean forcing it upon ourselves, it means understanding the hikma behind it, the wisdom, alhumduillah through proper learning and understanding i was able to tell myself to grow a beard, im not trying to brag, pride is haraam, but im just saying when i started growing the beard, no i wasnt trying to be santa claus, just inshallah hoping to feel the importance of sunnah in my life,you gotta have the right beard and right here is what our beloved prophet muhammad s said regarding the beard “Lengthen your beards and trim your mustaches,”[Muslim] would confirm this.

Growing the beard essentially comes back to perserving modesty, having the appearance of differentiating between a muslim and a non muslim.Now check this, nowadays people say its not apperance” its the heart and actions” which is of course is always true, lets use the example of wearing the hijab and why its so important for sisters. I used this example when i talked to a lady when she questioned the importance of hijab and modesty in islam, i told her lets say ” 2 girls were walking down the block, they were doublemint twins, and one was wearing modest clothing, covering herself properly and the other twin was dressed openly and was exposing her body, and there was a hooligan at the end of the block, honestly who do you think would be prone to a situation which would lead to haraam, or on the other hand sexual assault or further on, so we see the importance of wearing hijab for the sisters, me personally i wouldnt want my wife dressed openly, shes my wife, like shiekh khalid yasin said “we gotta perserve our wives like we do with diamonds”, sort of the same concept but basically i dont want no other man looking at my wife in the wrong way or muslim sister for that matter, and they say “diamonds are a girls best friend” so basically “modesty is a girls best friend” haha. So basically being modest SERVES AS A SHIELD FROM HARAAM.

so we gotta understand our purpose in life, we have to understand the hikma(wisdom) and honestly we wouldnt know how much it helps in the physical and spiritual aspect until we put it into PRACTICE. Now i’ve come across some sisters who say “oh what about those sisters who wear it but dont practice it”, yea its wrong, but lighten up you get alot of good deeds for reviving a sunnah, and wearing hijab is fard because the prophet muhammad (s) wives did wear it and it’s clear in the Qur’an, and im sure one who revives a Sunnah of our beloved prophet gets more of a REMINDER about themselves in their everyday life rather than one who dosent, but remember we have to explain the wisdom behind everything, and its always there inshallah, and honestly, by having the beard, i’ve gotten positive experiences, random conversations about islam, yea its like an automatic tool for dawah.

One of the most famous hadith proofs for hijab is the following, “A’isha (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that Asma’, the daughter of Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Messenger of Allah (may peace and blessings be upon him) while wearing thin clothing. He approached her and said: ‘O Asma’! When a girl reaches the menstrual age, it is not proper that anything should remain exposed except this and this. He pointed to the face and hands.” [Abu Dawud]

So BROTHERS and SISTERS, get with the sunnah, lets be the difference makers, i cant believe alot of men, first thing in the morning, they shave, ahh that hurts and i used to do that myself at one point in my life, but inshallah we have to be patient and give our brothers and sisters time, and sisters save yourselves for your husband, straight modesty, no twisting, brothers if you come across a shatan girl, tell her “chill yo islam yo”, and sisters if you come across a shatan brother, you already know what to say also, so inshallah Allah swt help us all, be strong, we are the caretakers of earth.

53 Responses to Grow the beard, wear the hijab, be modest!

  1. Amateur bin October 22, 2007 at 2:22 am #

    We will not learn how to live together in peace by killing each other's children — Jimmy Carter

  2. Kashan Ahmed October 22, 2007 at 8:24 pm #

    Mash'Allah very nice article..

    This topic is very important topic for all the young the muslims around the world who are going with the trend to be stylish & fashionable and then they move away from the true religion. I think we should all think that what we actually are (Muslims) before involving ourselves in worldly affairs and leave right path.

    I myself have experianced the effect of growing beard, it really increases your chance to do dawa to people.

    • Faraz February 15, 2014 at 10:24 am #

      It’s ironic that a Marxist/Jewish ortainzagion – the ACLU pushed this lawsuit.I guess they think they’ll have a special position when the Muzzies gain power thanks to people like them.Guess they haven’t seen what happened in France to their fellow Jews. Ha, ha.Mind you the ACLU(which was founded by 2 Communists) is at the forefront of attacking Christianity and anyone who stands for things the ACLU doesn’t like such as promoting Western Civilization and can successfully litigate over.Overall the ACLU has done more damage to this country than all the Muzzie terrorist acts combined. They have almost unlimited financial and legal resources to litigate anyone or even a entire city into the poor house if you don’t abide by their legal fatwas.

  3. beti November 9, 2007 at 11:10 am #

    “oh what about those sisters who wear it but dont practice it”, yea its wrong, but lighten up you get alot of good deeds for reviving a sunnah, and wearing hijab is a sunnah…

    wearing a hijab is not sunnah. its fard

  4. niqaabster November 18, 2007 at 11:45 am #

    mash'Allah beautyful artical i must say..

    buh isn't in obligatory to cover?? hmm

    it is stated in the qur'an the hijab is obligatory (yea im kinda lazy..astaghfirullah)

  5. niqaabster November 18, 2007 at 11:52 am #

    *edit*

    i just realised i cant type..or is it jus the keyboard playin tricks hmm..well its obligatory to actually cover ovcourse buh we sisters should actually observe the niqab too jus wearing the hijab is pointless beauty can still be seen…"the face is the place of beauty" therefore you an still commit haram (the brother may not be able to lower his gaze therefore he dusnt only get the sin yeww do……2) btw way im learning to become an alimmah and inshAllah a scholar inshAllah..so this is the 3ilm i have acquired from my sheikh….alhamdulilah!

  6. TruthForReal May 14, 2008 at 1:43 pm #

    Man, your website is awesome.

    Keep it up.

  7. saad ahmad rashad May 14, 2008 at 7:11 pm #

    Wasalaam, Good looks on the comments. Appreciate it. Spread the knowledge…..especially if the "TRUTH IS REAL" haha…peace

  8. IneeAbdAllah June 25, 2008 at 9:21 pm #

    Nice article mA….im a convert who just started wearing hijab and the difference is amazing! Eventhough i use to wear very modest clothing it seems like men still decided that it was okay to "holla at a girl" i could have been a religous christian, but just placing the hijab on my head made the world of a difference…Men respect muslim women a lot even if they dont know anything about the deen…Hijab does not take away from our beauty as "niqaabster" said our face still shows, but we still get the respect we deserve ilhamdoulilah, and i wear it proudly!

  9. Halima July 25, 2008 at 12:31 pm #

    I don't wear hijab but I cover modestly. I understand that people like to wear it but Allah only said to cover your chests in Surah 24:31. I feel that he let us interpret modesty as we want to. If a guy tries it with me I say I'm a muslim and I'm not interested. Covering your hair doesn't make you less attractive. My friend who wears hijab constantly has boys flirt with her- and she's the most modest person ever- she just tells them where to go!

  10. bint Mohammed A January 1, 2009 at 1:28 am #

    Bismilllah,

    AlHamdulillah – another great post! May Allah accept all your da'wah work inshaAllah.

    In regards to the hijab, is it not unanimously agreed upon by majority of scholars that the hijab – i.e head covering, and the jilbab – outer garment, are Fard??

    • Delphine February 15, 2014 at 5:02 am #

      Don’t hate the Muzzie gal, she’s just a puppet for pwforeul secular Leftists who just love making a mockery of the traditional American society.The sad fact is, she is just the latest tool in a long line that the ACLU and their fellow Leftists have used against the U.S. Remember these are the very same people who got Christmas and Christian symbols removed from many cities, replaced Christmas with happy holidays, they are the people who put Islamic studies in public schools but go on a legal Jihad if we had Christian studies, etc.Put another way, behind every Islamic cause here in the U.S. there is a pwforeul secular Leftist or group behind them. 9/11 Mosque and open boarders – Mayor Bloomberg, Bill O’Reilly and that idiot Dennis Miller. The latter two aren’t Leftists, but tools of the Left.

    • here March 10, 2014 at 4:13 am #

      Going to put this article to good use now.

  11. My opinion is better January 22, 2009 at 4:04 pm #

    Wow, I can't believe you are saying women should be protected like diamonds. They're not things, they're not objects. They're human beings. And they can fend for themselves. You can't own your wife, and you can certainly not own her enough to stop people looking at her. As a human, I have the right to look at whoever I want. I think all your points are flawed and most of your culture is primitive in many ways. It bothers me to think that you'd look down on me because I'm a girl who has a faithful pet dog, (an animal which would give its life for me without question, but which you still call unclean), eat ham, wear a bikini at the beach and have sex with men without establishing a meaningful relationship. Does that make me a bad person? I think not. In fact, I know not. I'm not saying it's right to be a slut (which I am not, thank you) but seriously… do you even masturbate?

  12. Noora January 23, 2009 at 10:40 am #

    Okay…I believe this article is targeted towards muslims, so many others may not agree with the article. In reference to your comment, If you prefer the temporary life of this world, than go ahead and enjoy. It appears you dont know about being treated with respect by men, so why should you appreciate it. Dont worry about it, you'll be treated by men exactly in the manner you deserve.

  13. My opinion is better January 24, 2009 at 11:17 am #

    I'm treated with perfect respect by every man I know. I don't need to cover myself like a ninja to demand respect. If you're reffering to me having sex with various men without a meaningful relationship, that is my choice and there is equal respect between me and the men I enjoy sex with. Never have I been treated without respect. As far as "this temporary life" goes, get a grip, when you die there is nothing.But whatever, if that makes the thought of dying easier for you, be my guest. And even if there was some sort of ridiculous paradise in the afterlife, I don't see that just because I enjoy sex and don't see it as something that is wrong or something that is just for procreation, I should not be allowed paradise.

    • NeufNeuf June 23, 2011 at 12:04 pm #

      Actually, you don't get very much respect.

      The men you "rightfully procreate" with, yeah, they're not very interested in what kind of a person you really are, they just want your body. And you, being mislead, willingly give it to them, even when they have no right to it.

      In Islam, when a girl covers, it prevents people of the opposite gender from judging her about her looks. Instead, they talk to her and treat her according to the person she is, and the amount of knowledge she has.

      I would know. This only comes from my persoanl experiences.

      I agreen w/ Noora. You'll be getting just the treatment you deserve.

  14. Amina January 26, 2009 at 12:06 am #

    In response to My opinion…, First of all if you choose to live the lifestyle u described, in ISLAM it is wrong.Having SEX before marriage is IMMORAL even in CHRISTIANITY and JUDAISM. And I'm sorry to break it to u, but the men u have slept with don't respect u, b cause u gave it away free. The muslim woman is pure, and u ask any man which one he'd rather go to bed with, HER or the one who's been around the corner a few? Admit it, u don't feel good about ur self, that's y u made it clear ur not a slut, but u feel like one, right? and u feel in ur heart there IS an afterlife, but u don't want to give up certain things…I've been there, and Islam WILL set u free girl, u will finally b able to take off those shackles. You were touched by what u read, but Satan is pulling at u, don't let him put blinders on what u already know in your heart is the truth. Don't let him fool u into believing that this unjust , cruel world is all there is. Trust me even though u don't know me, if u turn to God right now and sincerely ask Him to Guide u, He will never let u down.

  15. My opinion is better January 26, 2009 at 12:24 pm #

    Not at all. What I get back from my partners is love, care and pleasure. I don't "give it away for free", sex isn't a thing to give, it's something two people share. As for immorality, I'm just going to say religions are bullshit. You're talking about shackles, when you can't even enjoy a piece of ham or stroke a dog. Satan doesn't exist, neither does anything else related to religion. There's this thing called science, you know, dinosaurs, genetics, DNA, evolution etc. The muslim woman isn't pure, the muslim woman is primitive, she can't see further than religion.

  16. Amina January 26, 2009 at 5:51 pm #

    You say u get love, care& pleasure back, but what is love to u? there's lust and there's love, to really love someone is to realize over a period of time around that person that you would make sacrifices for him/her & that u would desire to spend your life with him/her, it doesn't happen just by sharing sex/fun without a commitment, marriage is a commitment. I get tons of sexual pleasure from my husband, so why do I need a variety of sexual partners? I agree that "religions" other than Islam are b.s, Islam is a complete way of life & not just a set of beliefs or rituals. It brings serenity and meaning to one's life, pork is prohibited because it's unhealthy, I don't miss it at all because I am fulfilled as a muslim. Dogs are created by God, we have mercy for all animals, but there are scientific evidences(by non-muslims) regarding harmful bacteria in their saliva,not their bodies. God created science, genetics, DNA & dinosaurs. The theory of evolution proposes that life was not "created" which is a fallacy completely contrary to scientific facts. Modern science has revealed a very explicit fact through certain branches of science like paleontology, biochemistry & anatomy, the fact is that all living things are created by God, even Satan. Islam has freed me to not have to expose my body to strange men, I know that I'm respected for my mind, the rest of me is irrelevant to be appreciated. Did u know that in Islam a man HAS to totally support his wife & it's her choice to work or not? If she does work, her income is all hers to do what she chooses. Muslim women are strongly encouraged to get educated. I was born and raised in the U.S as a non-muslim. The parties, guys, alcohol, drugs, ect… didn't bring internal happiness, it actually enslaved me in mind & body. If I hadn't "seen" any other way to live, than THAT would have been primitive, we r here for a reason, wouldn't that suck if we weren't?

  17. My opinion is better January 27, 2009 at 10:25 am #

    You talk of parties, alcohol and drugs. I've had none and I don't plan to. Love is contingent, and to me, love can simply be sharing a beautiful moment with someone who's company I enjoy. Whatever love for you is, that's great, and I'm not suggesting you have sex with more men, that is simply MY choice and there is nothing wrong with that. Other religions are not bullship compared to Islam, ALL religions are bullshit. Ham is perfectly healthy, it's about moderation, it contains important fat and protein. Dogs can have harmful bacteria in their saliva, but guess what, so can people. Cats, mice, sheep, all animals can have harmful bacteria, and quite frankly, I don't let my dog lick my face, so I don't see why it would be dangerous to be around a friend who would give his/her life for you without question. Evolution is not a theory, it is a fact. There's more than enough proof. You say evolution contradicts science, please explain that. If you agree you beleive in dinosaurs, then please explain how man came to be. Do you think God one day decided to just get rid of the dinosaurs and create man, and he created us exactly in the same way we are now? You'll find there's evidence against that. You say Islam finaly allows you to not have to expose yourself to strange men. As a non muslim, there is absolutely nothing stopping me from covering myself up, it's my own choice. I was raised as a Christian, and I managed to realise religion shouldn't be taken so damn literally.

  18. Yosra January 27, 2009 at 11:09 pm #

    Asalamu Alaykom,

    To you, your way. To me, my way.

    My way is hejab. I lived for over 30 years without it. I will live inshahallah the next 30 with it. I don't always like wearing it, but I always know I am loved by Allah for wearing it. I have received so many blessings because of it.

    And this is coming from someone who was fired for wearing it! Oh, and "yes" I sued them. I came out OK in the end, alhumdulillah.

    When I became single again, I was scared about finding a husband while in hejab. "How can that work?!" I thought. I know a lot of sisters take it off because they start to doubt their ability to be attractive while husband hunting.

    For me? I have had more proposals from quality men than I ever had before, living as a Christian with flowing hair and tight clothes. It stands to reason. We all want a man to love us for our "inner beauty". So why not take away some of the outer beauty so as not to confuse the issue?

    As for analogies, my sheik told me this one: If you were shopping Best Buy for a new laptop, you would for sure test out the controls on the display model. You would have no hesitation to play around with it. It was sitting out in the open meant for you and anyone else who walked by. But…when the time came to purchase? Naaaaw, there is no way you'd be content to purchase that one! You would ask for one which nobody had touched; one which was still protected and wrapped up.

    If sisters can't see themselves covering except for hands and face, that's ok. Do what you can. Stop some of the craziness. Stop the tight clothes—especially the jeans. Stop the see through stuff. Stop showing the skin. Work towards something more modest and see how it feels.

    Don't you feel more whole? Like your body has become your own? Men aren't carving you up with their eyes like before. You might even drop weight from no longer feeling insecure about your body (and packing on pounds to hide behind fat).

    If you have a man, then start thinking of your physical attributes as something special to share with him only; like a present only he gets to unwrap.

    If you don't have a man, think about how you will get a chance to be that protected one which was saved from being stared at and handled as public property. You are worth more.

  19. John January 28, 2009 at 10:47 am #

    For my opinion is better than yours….I was surfing online and bumped into this page LOL…I dont think your a slut people can sleep with whoever they want to its our choice…Covering, modesty blah blah blah…Im down for fun! No ties sounds great! my kind of girl….i dont really believe in a religion either sounds like bs to me…im not attracted to muslim girls, wouldnt mess with them anyway just incase there is a god…..ne way wana exchange contact info….

  20. My opinion is better January 28, 2009 at 12:21 pm #

    Cool John. I'm just another soldier of reason trying to snap these fools back into reality.

  21. Amina February 2, 2009 at 11:29 pm #

    In response to My opinion is better…I know my response is late sorry, but been busy. Regarding evolution and science I don't know if u like reading but I really recommend the book: "Evolution Deceit" b'cause it will explain it very well. For example: looking into history of philosophy the idea of evolution constitutes the backbone of many pagan philosophies, but it's not this philosophy that has stimulated it's role in the birth of modern science, interestingly it's faith in God. Astronomers like Leonardo da Vinci, Copernicus, Keppler, Galileo, the great scientist Isaac Newton, all studied science believing not only in the existence of God, but also that the whole universe came into being as a result of His creation. Albert Einstein, a genius and devout scientist said:" science without religion is lame". I may not be all that great with words in answering your questions, but I can tell you that God, Allah, which is His name created us all. Dinosaurs, sun, sky, moon, animals, everything. He controls everything, who do u think sends down the rain? look at your hands, see all those tiny lines? your eyes, nose, mouth, everything is perfect, because He is perfect. And only by His mercy is He allowing us to live each day and breath, but one day we will stop breathing…do u really think He will not raise u up from your death? Why would He put us here for no purpose other than to fullfill our desires? Open your eyes and heart for just a minute, just for a second ask yourself, what if I am wrong and Islam is right? do u know that God says that the ones who hear but do not listen, but rather choose to laugh and call us fools are really the fools? I won't tell u like the christians that if u just "believe" u will be saved, I will tell u that Islam requires some work, trying ones best to do good deeds and trying to stay away from wrong actions, why? not because God wants us to be miserable and not have any fun. Only because He is the all wise, He made us so He knows what we need and what we don't need. We all make mistakes, we don't always stay away from sins, we all screw up at times, but then what? we should realize the wrong and ask ONLY from God His forgiveness, and He says that He will always forgive us if we are sincere. The least thing u can do is just pick up a book on Islam, or however u do it just study a little bit just so that u won't judge it without knowing something first.

    • Michelle February 14, 2014 at 11:16 pm #

      Eid mubark befiutaul. May all your days be filled with joy. The outfit Amazing mashallah- I love the choice of colours, very classy. Thank god I’m not the only one to wear the mullet dresses with a skirt. Was looking forward to ur post today.

  22. Anonymous February 6, 2009 at 7:16 am #

    mashallah very nice article

  23. My opinion is better February 6, 2009 at 7:48 am #

    I do enjoy reading, as a matter of fact, I've read many, many books regarding evolution, the big bang etc. You failed to answer my question, so I'll repeat it. You state you don't beleive into evolution, so do you beleive mankind has always been this way? There is plenty of proof to show our race has changed over time, is that not evolution? You've admitted to beleiving in dinosaurs; do you not beleive creatures from then have evolved into their modern counter parts? Or do you think after his "creation" of dinosaurs failed, he decided to have another go and create humans.

    It seems all the goodness that comes out of Islam is only made because you want the reward after death, or because you fear being punished. Everything you have said points to this. You only follow Islam because you beleive you will answer to god after you die, and you want to be on his good side, NOT simply because you have true faith.

    "who do u think sends down the rain?" Maam, you'll find there's a very good scientific explanation for rain, and it has nothing to do with god. I doubt I have to give it to you, because surely you have read it before… how water evaporates, condensates etc? There is also an explanation to why the sky is blue (the atmosphere acts as a colour filter) and why the sky is green (clorophyll) and why we are here today (the big bang).

    I've studied plenty of science, astronomy, varied cultures, world religion and, beleive it or not, Islam. I don't judge without knowing, nor do I judge with knowing, I am simply trying to snap you back into reality.

    • NeufNeuf June 23, 2011 at 12:10 pm #

      Why must people always use Science against Religion, or in this case, Islam?

      You're so blind you can't see that SCIENCE is a PROOF FOR ISLAM. SCIENCE IS THE EVIDENCE THAT ALLAH SWT IS REAL, IS THERE, AND IS WATCHING US ALL RIGHT NOW.

      Science is the study of the creations of God.

      Muslims believe Allah SWT, or God, created humans in stages. So it is true we do not look exactly like Adam and Eve did. But we were never apes. Humans and apes are separate creations.

      And your beloved Big Bang theory can't even function properly without the presence of God. In the Big Bang theory, you can never reach Time 0. That was the exact instance of creation, and only Allah SWT, or God, has the ability to create. The knowledge of Time 0 has been closed of to us, by Allah SWT, Himself.

  24. Kareem April 22, 2009 at 7:17 am #

    Yes grow the beard, wear the hijab, be modest but we know it may be a challenge or not preferential to some so may Allah(swt) guide them and may we be able to inspire them.

  25. Anonymous August 4, 2009 at 6:27 pm #

    Assalmoalkium

    The article is great. I like how you have emphasized the importance of wearing hijab. I have a quick question, if you look at surat Noor, ayah # 30-31 and surat ahezab, ayah # 90, whats the emphasize then? Is Hijab/Niqab Sunnah or Fard? Or is it just difference of opinions? Shouldn't a woman must be covered from head -toe?

  26. Saad August 4, 2009 at 6:50 pm #

    Sorry, It is Fard.

    I forgot to change the wording, but yea that's what I meant.

    Jazaku'Allah for reminding me about the grammatical errors.

  27. Anonymous August 4, 2009 at 7:40 pm #

    This is in response to "My opinion is better than yours " Apparently, your views, your life, our (MUSLIM) views our lives. All you are talking about is your desires for this life. Sex, drink, fun, party etc.The prblem is that you are not convinced to ISLAM (u dont have to) All the aspects you have talked about reflect on how they serve you. In ISLAM the belief is HOW DO I SERVE MY CREATOR? How do I please my god? Once you are into that submission, you are blessed and most importabt blessing is PEACE WITH YOURSELF. No offense but you are 2 addicted to your own desires, most of all SEX. You already mentioned in ur response that you having sex with guys doesnt make u a slut. I m sure it does. Those men give u respect at that moment to have u laid but is any of them ever going to marry you? NO, even you know the answer for this. Sister Noora and Amina I absolutely agree with you guys. Put it this way the problem with this person is or just in general with people like that is having to give up what they love. Allah swt said it clearly that he created juns and humans just to worship him alone. Now John,you are not attracted to Muslim women because of your own reasons but waht makes you think MUSLIMS WOMEN WILL BE ATTRACTED TO A GUY LIKE YOU? At the end I just wana say few words and please do forgive me if I have hurt someone but again in response to "my opinion is … You are basically a marijuana, a drug that is passed from one person to another than second person to the third and third to the fourth and on and on and on.. UNTIL EVERYONE HAS TAKEN AN INHALATION OF YOU (USED YOU ON THE BED) AND AT THE END THEY THROW/WILL THROW YOU ON A GROUND BECAUSE YOU WILL HAVE NO MORE USE AND EVENTUALLY YOU WILL GET STEPPED ON. Now allhamdullilah this is not the reality of muslims women. Sister Noor and Amina will agree with me and brothers who read it as well.

    Brother Saad, dont get me wrong but you made this article turn into a heated debate LOL

  28. sakura August 4, 2009 at 8:31 pm #

    Modesty is very important, especially in this day and age. However, I do believe that one of the above posters is right…in the Quran, it just says cover your bosom. The problem I have with your argument, Brother Saad is that you say that guys wouldn't really want anything to do with a woman who is covered. I think that's a really naieve point-of-view. Many guys still pursue women with headcoverings. In fact, it makes them more vulnerable to attack. Men see them as a challenge. Now if they'll respect your opinion more, that probably true than if they saw someone dressed immodestly. However, conservatism is generally associated with professionalism.

    And like another above poster wrote, it is insulting to say women are like diamonds. They are valuable, yes, but you can't just propertize women. Women are not objects…by propertizing them using the hijab, that's doing exactly the thing that the hijab is supposed to prevent…it's making women into a sex object.

    Rather, I say it's not necessarily the hijab or the coverings or the clothes in the least that makes your modesty…it is how you act around people.

  29. Saad August 4, 2009 at 8:56 pm #

    @sakura….

    Salam,

    As far as dressing modest, of course that is beautifying, I'm not objecting to that. As our Beloved Prophet said " Verily Allah swt is beautiful and loves beauty" and indeed being modest is what beautifies the inner and outer self.

    I think you misinterpreted my post, when I mentioned guys who don't find Muslim women attractive I was referring to a specific type of males who pursue pleasure of women for just sexual desires/appetites.

    Of course if you ask me, I think it's good women cover for the betterment of society because I'm Muslim and I have to submit to what Allah swt has commanded. On the other hand, if you ask a pimp, he's going to say he doesn't think women who are covered are attractive because that's his mentality. So it's all about who and what context we are speaking in because people perceive other people differently depending on their principles and beliefs.

    In terms of comparing women to diamonds, I didn't mean it in a literal sense, of course women aren't sexual objects and aren't property, I was using diamonds as a metaphorical example..I ended that paragraph by stating “modesty is a girls best friend”.

    And in reference to your last comment about how you act around certain people, I agree 100% but remember dressing modestly is an "action" in itself, and the standard for Muslims is both inward and outward, so it's important we emphasize these points and try to implement them slowly with sincere intentions.

    Some people don't cover completely, we don't judge them but we simply advise them and move on. No one is hear to force but simply to remind and set a positive example.

    May Allah swt keep us on the straight path, Ameen!

  30. My opinion is better August 5, 2009 at 5:06 am #

    You say I am like a drug, that is used and passed around by men. You have no idea what you are talking about. Having sex with more than one man certainly does NOT make me a slut. Perhaps you should find the definition of slut. No one has ever used me and I am not an object of desire to them. All of these men are my friends, who spend time with me everyday, know me and what I'm like, they are all my best friends, the people I spend my life with. Just becuase you need to be married to a woman in order to respect her, doesn't mean everyone else does. I am not addicted to sex, nor parties, nor the pleasures of life. I do not have sex every minute of the day. You have misinterpreted me entirely. What I have is a free, loving relationship between the people that make my life.

    You say you lead your life with the question "how do I serve my creator".

    Well I lead my life with the question "how do I serve mankind".

    Get a grip.

  31. BananaPancakes August 7, 2009 at 11:39 am #

    I like how people get their idea of science from "books", and then go harping their "knowledge" around as if they know everything. People like that make science look terrible! I'm a Zoology major, hoping to specialize in embryology and animal development and physiology, so there is a lot of evolution involved in my field. While I do believe in adaptation and natural selection, as a Muslim, I still have a hard time understanding how some people believe in evolution so blindly. They're constantly going on about proven facts. Well, I have news for you: My father's a scientist, I've worked and been taught by scientists, and a huge number of them actually don't believe in evolution all the way. Why? Because they dedicate vast amounts of time and effort researching and actually, you know, LEARNING science! A lot of people think, there were monkeys, then one day they became humans, and then…the end. But if you study evolutionary theories (and it is STILL considered a theory_ everything in biology is considered a theory, unlike physics or chemistry, it cannot be fully proven, people would know this if they actually followed science), you would know all about rRNA and DNA evolution. That's the thing that I find almost impossible to believe. To dumb it down, without going into all the hard evidence and facts, I just think it's near-damn impossible for Nitrogen, hydrogen and carbon to spontaneously react with each other one day, without no form of intervention, to create complex molecules that are perfectly suited to creating the backbone, and basic structure for every living organisms genetic makeup. That process alone would take…AGES AND AGES! Then for those complex molecules to react spontaneously to form even greater organic molecules? Again, more and more time. To FINALLY create some simple organism, like a flatworm or some kind of echinoderm, the process alone would take such a vast amount of time, some physicists and geologists believe that the Earth isn't even old enough to accommodate that. Science is in constant dispute amongst researchers, so it's not fair for somebody with absolutely no background in it to go around claiming they fully understand certain theories, and to bring other people down because of them. Again, these are my beliefs, and anybody is free to believe whatever they choose. I'm not hear to argue that. Like I said, I'm still a simple, stupid student strongly driven by my interest and appreciation for science. To me, scientific findings are just everyday proof that there is a God, because the way the world works is so incredible, it can't just all happen by chance. Like Albert Einstein once said: God does not play dice with the universe. Think about it. Some scientists think so, others don't, that's just how it is. I just think before people go on and on about scientific theories, they should at least know what they're talking about before going: OH, it's proven! By Scientists! Therefore, we are smarter than religious people! Just saying.

  32. BananaPancakes August 7, 2009 at 11:41 am #

    Sorry for telling you my life story just then, I saw some comment by someone going on about evolution and this and that, so I thought I'd put my $0.02 in. :)

    Even if no one will bother reading it.

  33. Anonymous August 28, 2009 at 3:17 pm #

    omiidaiizz…duno how i got 2 this page but im glad i did.okai firstly this page is for muslims and non-muslims are also invited to read. However, if there is a non-muslim who does not agree with what muslims belive then he/she should ask questions in a decent manner etc etc…there's no need to be rude here…If you don't like it then leave..no need to critize anyone or call any one fools..its not needed…you can only respect others when you respect yourself…clearly that seems missing to some according to what they post…I don't understand why non-muslims target muslims women?? its like hello whats your problem??? how is it affecting you if one decides to cover up…why call her a ninja? is this the type of language one is brought up with? if not then why talk in such a filthy way?

    Muslims can only give you dawah and if you fail to understand that then it'll be your lost…mark these words..its never too late to change..One day you'll see the truth…n i hope its not too late then.May God guide us all the to right path.Ameen.

  34. asma August 29, 2009 at 5:03 pm #

    just a comment to my opinion is better than yours:

    "You say you lead your life with the question “how do I serve my creator”.

    Well I lead my life with the question “how do I serve mankind”."

    Well how do we serve the creator? By serving MANKIND. It's that simple!

    peace

  35. Amena August 30, 2009 at 9:56 am #

    Sis Asma, that was beautifully said! :)

  36. Faiqah November 2, 2009 at 2:10 pm #

    Wow…looking at some of 'My opinion is better than yours' arguments; I have studied science and continue to do so and I love it, and I am also a muslimah. We muslims believe in the Big Bang etc,but evolution??

    Big Bang – how was matter made? Who made the 'bang' suddenly happen? On its own? I dont think so..

    Evolution – hahaha…how can nature become so perfect by chance? And as the person above Banana something said, its just too impossible to imagine things proved unlikely in science could happen…we used to be monkeys before? Please! Its still a theory..I know for sure in the near future people will just laugh at the very idea of of us humans evolving from monkeys or apes or whatever…

    @ My opinion is better than yours – haha what a stupid name! Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, dont you think? And yours better than ours? I don't think so..'sumum bukmun umyun fahum la yarjaoon' I feel sorry for you, I hope someday before your soul is taken from you, Allah takes away the darkness from your sight and also the blinds covering your ears…

    Salaam x

    p.s Saad bro awesome siteee!

  37. muslim sis November 3, 2009 at 8:20 pm #

    hey I love ur website. its so cool, especailly the name "chill yo islam yo".it's wat islam is but u didn't explain it in boring way so ppl actually like myself read it.

  38. taliba November 7, 2009 at 8:58 am #

    niqab and hijab is wajib according to quran and sahih hadiths =)

  39. another being November 7, 2009 at 10:48 pm #

    my opinio is better…. is so totally wrong abt the meaning of life it almost seems that satan has gotten into her and there is absoloutley no chance of coming back.. well it happens to some people LOL and theyll only realise it when its too late way too late..

  40. Sara_Lov January 23, 2010 at 9:54 pm #

    Salaam,

    Really great website.

    First of all i don't wear hijab, sometimes i feel guilty about it, but I don't think its really that necessarily. Modesty is the key, and one should know how to be modes in every part of the society. I don't wanna look weird when i step in a classroom whith people not wearing the hijab, but would try to look as modest as i can (appearance)so that they do get the message after all, And perhaps in Arabia somewhere where i step in the classroom would gladly wear the hijab because there it is a sign of modesty and that would not make me uncomfortable. Feeling good in your skin should be a priority and thats what i think god wanted for those who lived in the prophet mohammeds time (pbuh),for women to protect themselves. The good thing is, is that they all agreed and together made it happen by wearing the hijab, perhaps they sensed how right it would be,since it was dangerous without in those days.

    As a little girl i was alwasy interested in the truth……what is right and what really is wrong. Too many questions needed to be answered. Therefore i choose science, education, wisdom, and other source of information that could provide answers my questions,such as why is the grass green to why is he praying and why does this person beat his wife…. and as you grow up, u tend to have even more questinos. And it was eventually EDUCATION that ANWERED all my questions….and particularly about the existence of god. Anysays, istart looking for the trught since i was 5 years old, when i could think and observe the outside world and my own family. SO if you think that just a few years of reading that book and this book and dong that homework and watching this documentary is enough, than thats wrong. U really need more time and experience and lots of thinking and observation and then like philosophers trying to put the puzzle peaces together. I wasnt biased or choose to be blind in achieving my goal (determinging what really can be stated as ''wrong'' and what could be stated as ''right'').

    The reason for my lifelong search of truth was because, so many people, so many cultures, many diversities….simplhy overwhelming, i had to know what to do in life and which path to take….Living in a non-islamitic coutnry while you're a muslim, is a very big challange! Anyways ..i dont' regret this mission i had, cause it brings me closer to god and at least now, i know now all the answers to my questions.

    After all the questions being answered…there is always that last ''why'' question and that last and final answer is Allah. When i found out about that, it was foolish of me then to still put science in the number 1 list, while Allah has CREATED it. So ''my opinion is bet….''; i don't think you're slut, that your lifestyle is wrong, cause i absolutaly understand where u come from. Anyways its eventually being a good person or not, the rest is non-of anyones business…..but please don't say that you're trying to bring back these muslim people ''back to reality''. The reason you reaspond to muslims this way, cause u really have it good and just a ''swell'' time with your friends. Ofcourse your not encouraged to look for answeres and stuff, which gives you the elusion that you live in somesort of paradise and think that that is the only ''reality''.

  41. sensible February 8, 2010 at 4:40 pm #

    you are so sad!

  42. Do I Matter? February 19, 2010 at 1:09 pm #

    Hi. I'm just writing to say that I really do like this website. I hsve come to grow my beard and have come up against opposition so know that it must be right for me to do. I know that anything good for you normally comes with a bitter taste. I take refuge in Allah and the Messenger s.a.w sunnah. I also know that there are sisters out there who also get it bad for what they wear. I encourage you to keep it up for Allah has great reward for you.

    Iv'e met a sister who is questioning her hijab now becuase she has met a non muslim man even though she has worn it most of her life with no problem. But it is doing its job and the guy she likes see's the Hijab and see's her in a certain way and is very respectful to her.

    My cousin is studying in Saudi and told me of a brother who is from Russia studying in Saudi with him who went home to visit and got killed because he was muslim and had a beard. His friend also from Russia is planning to go home when he finishes his studying to I believe with his beard and knows when he goes he most likely will die.

    This speakes volumes to me and the effort we should make in up holding the sunnah of the Prophet s.a.w and having that commitment and passion to see it through. I erge each muslim to seek out the knowledge and grow in our religion and to take it serious.

    Shaytaan works slowly and in generations. I hear someone say that it was o.k for that period when the Prophet s.a.w was alive and his companions, but if you know the story of shaytaan and what he did to generations after Noah (a.s) then you would never say that. Please my people take courage and have massive faith in who you creator is and be proud to be muslim and demonstrate this in muslims and non muslim crowds alike.

    As for 'MY OPINION IS BETTER THAN YOURS' if you still come on this site please I challenge you to study the real life and times of the Prophet Mohammed s.a.w and the Quran and tell us what is wrong with that compared to evolution theory because you really need to understand us and what your doing before trying to sort us out. God wants good for you but you gotta want good fot yourself.

  43. joshi August 4, 2010 at 10:11 am #

    May Allah be with you and guide you always!

  44. I want to wear it! August 17, 2010 at 10:07 am #

    Sallamu Alaikum everyone!

    I really want to wear th hijab SOOOOOOO BAD, but i dont know why i cant just DO IT! I seriously like put it on, and when it come to walking out i take it off..why is it so hard for me? I am always thinking of the hijab and its an on going struggle im dealing with because wallahi allah knows how much i want to wear it, but why is it hard for me to just do it

    • NeufNeuf June 23, 2011 at 12:17 pm #

      Dear Sister in Islam,

      I understand your struggle. A while ago i was facing the same problem.

      But think about, who are you doing this for? You are doing this to please Allah SWT. So, before you take it off, remember Allah is watching you, and make a small dua so that He will helo you and make it easy for you. Don't care about what anyone else says; you're not working to please them. :) I hope that helps, and May Allah SWT guide you through your journey, and guide all of us through our journeys.

  45. 1234 August 17, 2010 at 3:07 pm #

    Asalmu-Alaikum -To ‘I want to wear it’… My dear sis in Islam I know exactly where you’re coming from for I myself have been through that couple years back. Please don’t feel insecure when you wearing hijab. Hijab is worn to preserve your beauty, to protect yourself from prying eyes. You finding it hard to wear it because shaytaans playing with your mind… REMEMBER that iblis the biggest of all shaytaan challenged Allah and said he will destruct Mankind in whatever way possible. Remember every time you leave home without hijab is shaytaan winning one over you!!!! Were all in this world for a reason, there is a purpose behind it, and that is to worship and obey Allah’s command. Sis your intentions is your foundation and make duas that Allah helps you wear it. Remember how proud and happy Allah will be of you inshAllah every time he sees you covered up. This world is nothing, its one long test which we will eventually be judged for. Don’t let anyone else stop you from wearing hijab. I make dua that Allah the Almighty helps you through it and gives you strength. If I’ve said anything to hurt or cause offence please find it in your heart to forgive me inshAllah, I’m just trying to help. Salam.

  46. Majida August 25, 2011 at 8:42 pm #

    Assalamualaikum :-) Thank you for such a lovely and REAL website. Your right, the Truth should be Real! Hijab is fard. What is Hijab is the question the Muslimahs are trying to get to. The best advice is, Put your trust in Allah and He will guide you. Listen to your heart. Allah swt mentions the Heart numerous times in the Quran for good reason…as anyone with reason can understand. Intention, intuition, all begin with the Soul and take its place in this dunya in ones heart. Allah swt speaks to us every day if we only listened…. Keep Allah in your minds, and He will Reign in your Hearts. Even if you slip for a second, bring yourself back, its alright. As for a sister above, she mentioned that she sometimes feels guilty for not wearing a head scarf, the feeling of Guilt means that one is going against their own soul. Guilt, anger, jealousy, angst…all such "negative" emotions are felt because one is going against their Real Self…their Soul. I am not an Alim or even Hafiz of Quran, nor am I a scholar of Hadith, but from what I have observed and learned throughout my short lived life, it seems that the more one feels True to Themselves, and expel all feelings of guilt or regret (not because they exist but because those such emotions cannot be felt to begin with) then only then can we feel Peace within ourselves, only then can there be Islam.

    As for my own opinion on the proper Hijab…I know of many South East Asians who do not wear a headscarf but put a covering or dupatta over their head, and it is lovely. At times they look more covered and proper and modest then a woman in full gear. They also look more comfortable lol. Hijab means giving up luxury as well. U can wear a headscarf and a pound of gold but then that makes you many other wrong things….u can not wear a headscarf but have the raggediest clothing on because you give up everything u have to the needy, that makes you Truth in my eyes….It all depends. The best advice is…Know Your Self. Nobody knows You better then You. And nobody can teach You better then You. 😉 Put ALL your Love and Trust in Al-Rahman Al-Raheem Al-Wadood…and you'll be straight.

    An ignorant person is one who has knowledge but does not implement it in his/her own actions…

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